I wanted to write this on the front page, but Google deems articles critical of women as "dangerous and derogatory," so this one's going out to my VIP subscribers.
On Saturday morning, I came across a video of a young woman complaining that men aren't chivalrous anymore, by showing a subway car full of men sitting down while she is forced to stand up.
"What happened to the days men offered women their seats?" she asked, as she focused in on the men sitting down.
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The post was meant to shame men with the question, but perhaps she's asking the wrong group. She should be posing this question to herself and her fellow women.
Little uploads like these aren't uncommon. Women, especially women in their 20s and 30s, post videos to Instagram and TikTok around the clock, asking where the good men have gone. They wonder aloud why no man is willing to treat them like they're special.
Meanwhile, the answer has been in front of their faces the entire time. Men have been very vocal, especially over the last decade, about why we've withdrawn from chivalry.
Women told us to.
For a few generations now, women have been passing the idea around to each other that they don't need men. They're strong, independent, and are just as good as, if not better than, men at everything. They said women should make as much as men do. That they should be the leaders, and that society should pave the way for them to become so.
So men did.
But in order for women to withdraw from their traditional gender roles and the benefits they received, men had to do something of a withdrawal from theirs. For women to be equal, men had to begin treating women as if they weren't women. A lot of our chivalrous and gentlemanly behavior had to go, so as not to offend the independent sensibilities of these modern women.
Holding the door open for a woman, or standing up so a woman could sit down, was now taboo. Simply explaining something to a woman was "mansplaining," so we stopped being informative. Women began getting high-level jobs, oftentimes out-earning men in major cities, and as such, we lost the ability to provide for the woman, and were out of the qualifying column to be her romantic option.
Women got everything they wanted, but now we're seeing more and more that this isn't actually what women want. Rather they do want what they have, but they want the gentlemanly behavior and chivalry as well. They want to be taken care of, while they outearn men in the workplace. They want to be equal, but they want to be special too.
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That's not how this works.
If these women want a man who can handle business, provide for her, take care of her, treat her like she's special, and be her rock and her safe place, then she's going to have to make some concessions.
There has to be a giving up of power and independence. There has to be an acknowledgment that men possess a strength that you value and need, and are willing to rely on. Moreover, it means taking personal responsibility for your own situation. If you've dedicated your life to being a corporate worker with a solid paycheck, then don't be surprised to find your dating options have shrunk drastically thanks to the nature of hypergamy. That is provisioning power you've taken from potential mates and given to yourself.
I'm not saying women need to return to being housewives who wait for their husbands at the door with a drink, while dinner simmers on the stove. Women should do what drives them, and I fully believe that they should be able to pursue whatever goals they wish.
What I am saying, however, is that certain paths are going to take women away from what their natural urges are directing them to want, and at this time in our history, women have largely embraced a path of "independence" that leaves them lonely, angry, and confused. They want all the trappings of feminism, but take none of the consequences that come with it.
