Cam Newton, one of the NFL’s most talked-about quarterbacks, is being talked about right now, not for his ability to throw a ball but because he’s apparently made some sexist comments that the internet is naturally going nuts over.
It was during the Million Dollaz Worth of Game podcast that Newton began talking about the strong traditional family he grew up in, complete with not two, but three parents, meaning his mother, father, and grandmother. It was from his mother and grandmother that he learned what a woman was, and it’s nothing like the modern women of today, which he referred to as the quintessential “bad bitch.”
He elaborated after urging from the host.
“A bad bitch is a person who’s just, you know, ‘Girl I’m a bad bitch, I’m doing this, I’m doing that.’ I look the part but I don’t act the part,” Newton said. “There’s a lot of women who are bad bitches. And I say bitches in a way, not to degrade a woman but just to go off the aesthetic of what they deem is a boss chick.”
“Now a woman for me is, handling your own but knowing how to cater to a man’s needs. Right? And I think a lot of times when you get that ascetic of ‘I’m a boss bitch, Imma this, Imma that.’ No baby! But you can’t cook. You don’t know when to be quiet! You don’t know how to allow a man to lead,” Newton said.
NFL quarterback Cam Newton complained about women who "can't cook" and "don’t know when to be quiet."
"Now a women for me is, handling your own but knowing how to cater to a man’s needs." https://t.co/Dzw3QMtpwI pic.twitter.com/WdYsetopRJ
— Mediaite (@Mediaite) April 11, 2022
Feminists and white knights alike have come out to denounce Newton’s take on modern women with all the vitriol and nonsensical accusations you can imagine. That’s to be expected. We live in a society where a man so much as glancing at traditional gender roles is lead to the guillotine, socially speaking.
But let’s take a step back for a second and really consider what he was saying. In truth, Newton isn’t actually all that off in his comments. In fact, it’s safe to say he’s pretty spot on.
I’ve written about this kind of thing before a few times. Too many women have bought the feminist narrative hook, line, and sinker and embraced the idea that women are all infallible powerhouses while simultaneously being victims of a male-dominated society. Many women hold those beliefs while simultaneously believing men are as stupid as they are childish and that relationships should be one-sided affairs where men are meant to be subservient simps who must work to earn the love and adoration of women while a woman’s mere presence is sufficient payment enough for the man.
(READ: Men Are Getting Tired of the Hyper-Sexualized Woman)
Modern women are raised learning that they should expect things from a man, but what they aren’t taught is that they have expectations to meet of their own. Such a thing would be considered sexist today. As a result, there’s a swath of modern women who have no homemaking skills, are emotionally abusive to their boyfriends/husbands, and have the communication skills of a toddler, yet they have entirely high expectations for their men.
It’s a one-sided kind of relationship that, if it ever gets to marriage, usually ends in divorce. As a result, men are pulling out of the marriage game in droves leaving many women to wonder “where the good men have gone.”
(READ: Women Want to Know Why Men Don’t Want to Marry Anymore…Allow Me)
But men aren’t wrong to walk away and while even many a modern man won’t admit it, it’s because we’ve broken away from the traditionalism that used to keep marriages strong. To be clear, this doesn’t necessarily mean women need to get back in the kitchen and become the 1950s housewives you saw on television, but a key component will need to make a return in order for men and women to get back to good.
That component is mutual respect.
A woman should happily be of service to her husband just as he is in service to her. She should seek to uplift and empower him just as he is expected to reassure her that she is valued and loved. She should not dismiss his points during arguments and consider that perhaps she is wrong, just as he is expected to behave similarly.
Moreover, sometimes silence is golden, and not every battle needs to be fought. That, and men are natural leaders that don’t just have the ability, but the desire to be their family’s head.
To Newton’s point, this kind of thinking is going extinct. Many women are insulted when asked to give a man anything be it a homecooked meal or even a kind word. A man needing any reassurance, no matter how few and far between, is considered weak. He is always wrong, and even the suggestion that a man leads the family is considered a social sin so great that even women who play the role of housewife are canceled.
Women will tell a man that women run the world and that men need to step back and let women run the show. This is done while women continuously tell men to “man up” and are stressed because they feel like they have to consistently take the reigns. It’s confusing, and fewer and fewer men are willing to deal with it. Watching men flee the dating/marriage pool at the rate they have would be fascinating if it wasn’t so sad.
It gets even more interesting/tragic when you find out that modern feminism has left women more unhappy than they’ve ever been.
Men should expect a partner in their relationships, not an unpleasable dictator. She should be able to contribute to the relationship and the household. She should be willing to cook, clean, be a good listener, and consider the needs of her man. She should be able to pass on good values to the children they bring forth. He’s certainly considering and attempting to meet these expectations. We’ve been taught to do so.
If she refuses to do any of this over some false ideal of “empowerment” then men should feel no shame or guilt for passing her up.
In short, it’s okay for a man to not want a useless, self-absorbed woman. She’s a big part of his life and if that part is going horribly, then so is the rest of him.
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